Heh, heh...my H takes the same stance on "lipcrap".
And those urges to make OW comments? Totally normal...I still get them sometimes in random situations, as well as intimate moments. It's difficult to compete with the things you can imagine about OW and how they were together, the things they did...for some reason, at least for me, I tend to compare the worst parts of myself with the best of others (not that I think OW had anything on me).
You're right--the questions will do more harm than good...even if you hear what you want to hear in response to the question, you'll still second guess it, because it's hard to trust that it's truth.
You are doing so awesome. Just keep taking it a minute at a time. It will get easier.
