Thanks guys. I am always the instigator also. Only once did he make the first move and that was about 1 month ago. We were being intimate almost weekly then. This is the thing, we have only been divorced 1 month, seperated over 4 months now. The first say 3 months or so he allowed affection, the last few times I was with him he started setting boundaries. He said it brought up to many feelings for both of us. Is it possible that he gets "scared" and freaks out because of losing control. Because I do believe what you said is true, he is constantly telling me its his way. When I tried to kiss him on the neck even, he pulled away and said NO! We are not doing that! He said the last time that it wasnt right us being divorced and being intimate with each other. BUT he also says that no one will ever replace me. (in a round about way). He is BIG on stuff like, when I am at his house, I am NOT to make myself at home, for instance like I got a drink out of the fridge and he wanted me to ask first. HIS space not mine, BUT he is just now learning that I want the same respect, and he tries, but I think he still feels too much at home when he has to be here, he dont ask to use the restroom.lol If I told him I wanted more, and I did, thats when he said take it or leave it, and I almost did, but gave in. He def has total control over everything right now. What do you think would happen if he lost control? Also......I forgot to mention that when he is mad at me he always says. "I will never be back with you". Ok, you already said this like a bizillion times.
Do you all think he may also be scared of being pulled back. and if thats the case, will going dark push him futher away?
