I'll repeat that VHandsome said, have you seen what has gotten you here? it took my then H leaving the home to see what kind of W I was, I saw things for the first time and it wasn't pretty. I did try to do my best of course, but in my ignorance I put him in the back burner and didnt' give him the respect/attention he wanted/deserved. Look back and see where you went wrong, not to beat yourself but to learn from past mistakes.
You are doing well, do give her time. You dont' need to avoid her when she comes over, as the cliche says, BE yourself, no games, no longing looks, just try your darnest to just be.
This is a long road so lots of patience is needed.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
