Thanks for hanging in there with me:) I have been afraid to put a lot of distance for fear of H totally going away from me but you are right...if he chooses to be with OW he would not have left the A anyway.
I don't really see H as much as I used to. I see him at dropoff of D7 every other weekend and then 1 or 2 days a week if he picks her up from school. Mostly it is phone conversations. The dinner invitations are few and far between since OW is calling more again and I have not spent the night with him in probably 2 months now.
I never thought about the point you made on talking about OW to H. I guess he does see it as me accepting it and thinking it is ok. That is now going to stop.
Puppy-
Thank you again:)I have read a lot of your advice to others and I am glad to have your advice:) I think the first boundary I am going to set is what vicky said about NOT talking with H about OW. I am no longer going to listen to him talk about her nor am I going to ask questions about her.
I love your analogy...wish I could smack H with newspaper and make him come to his senses. If it were only that easy:) But I do get what you are saying 100%.
How do I approach him in a way to get him to stop with the ILY's in front of D7? I don't want it to be confrontational but I want to get my point across that I am serious and mean business.
The way I got him to stop taking D7 around OW was by asking him if he ever stops to think that every time he takes her around OW he is putting her in danger considering that OW's H is suspicious but doesn't know facts and could pop in on them at anytime and is not going to stop to think that there is a 7 year old sitting there if/when he decides to do something stupid to H and/or OW. That stopped him so far and he has not taken D7 around OW.
I told him that if he wants to see problems then he will by taking D7 around OW again. H does not like to feel that he is being TOLD what to do and I try not to phrase things where he feels that way so could you give me some examples on what to say?
