Boundaries, set them they don't like it but you'll be glad you did, just let him know you still care and love him but you just can't be used that way. You need to have control of the situation too, remember YOUR the one with your head on straight.

M 45
H 42

D 26
D 18
S 16

Married 19 years
Together 24 years
ILYBNILWY 1/7/08
OW 10/11/07
ended affair 3/14/08
came home 3/14/08
last contacted ow 3/17/08
4/19/08 trying to piece marriage back.