When your XH said take it or leave it you gave him the control. If it ever happens again I would tell him sorry and leave it. That's just my opinion.
My H and I also ML when he was doing his touch and goes. You know moving home for 2 weeks and then back to the ow. When we did ML he was so rough! He left bruises on me, that is how rough he was. Before MLC he was the most tender, loving person and he turn into this. I told him about it and he told me that I hurt his feelings!!!! I wasn't going to be treated that way again!!!!
This just shows you how MLC affects them!!! Like the others have said, they like the control factor. Set some boundries!
