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[karen43]

Yeah, I wonder if she is trying to get more time with her kids b/c she makes double his salary and would have to pay child support maybe if he had the kids more (I know my H has thoughts like that just wanting the kids to lessen or eliminate child support).

She was pretty much an absent mom at least for last year or 2, always working, with my H, or texting him when they weren't together. I don't think either of them are very good parents. Friends have told me she gave her d alcohol when she was 12 and stuff like that, and that they were always with their dad never her. I don't want my kids around her, and I could see why her H wouldn't want that maybe. I'll find out more details Monday I guess. Karen

[karen43]

So D9 and I were talking gs cookies today and she tells me "OW wants to order some from me too she told me." all excited about the sale. I'm like I don't know why that stuff still bugs me but it does. I mean I don't say anything; what to say: oh, goodie, dad's girlfriend is going to buy cookies. What a sweetie!!! (I didn't of course). I was also thinking hopefully we can sell her lots of the really high-calorie ones!!! Yes, I'm a petty person.

Went to church today (had the same sermon as you Jeff!) They had lunch after church today and some of the people talked about a mission trip they took to Costa Rica in July. They have mission trips every July apparently and helped build a church. I was thinking would be fun to try to do that maybe when D9 is a little bit older.

I was feeling very stressed about the job hunt last night (didn't sleep half the night) and this am and for some reason going to church helped a bunch with that. Trying to leave it up to God as you suggested in your recent post, yoyo, but it's hard sometimes. There is a 30 hour a week job opening at the local community college, and I would have to put D9 in private school most likely as I wouldn't have the time to hs both kids, and just keep it going with S15. I could only pay half the tuition (it would be $500 a month for tuition and bus fees). I figure if I got that job I could pay half, but that would be it so H would have to come up with half. I won't worry about it at this point as prob. unlikely I would even get it. I'm hoping things will just fall into place as they usually do... Karen

[LL44]

OW wants to order some from me too she told me." all excited about the sale. I'm like I don't know why that stuff still bugs me but it does

Um, it still bugs you because you are normal. What an idiot OW is. Of course, your H could have easily bought the cookies *for* OW, no need for her to order them. Barf! What a bunch of fools. Send her a few boxes of the choc covered peanut butter ones. That oughta do it, calorie wise!

I'm hoping things will just fall into place as they usually do

I rely on this to keep me sane.

[kat727]

So what did your L want? Is it what we thought? Just curious and trying to get my mind off all my stuff. Kids get excited about making a sale. They don't care who it comes from. Totally normal that it bothers you. Like lwb said I think your h could have stepped up and bought them to save himself the trouble.

hugs Karen.

kat

[karen43]

The truth is I think OW is tacky and not sensitive or she wouldn't have done that. But she is tacky and insensitive so she acts that way and I shouldn't expect any differently. Probably most OP I'm thinking are like that; that's the kind of people that have affairs when they are married with married people!!!

I did talk to the L. She said OW's H sounds very bitter. She didn't say that much accept I guess her H does have more knowledge of all their trips and my H spending money on them. Well, I kind of figured that b/c he put most of our bills on credit card this past year, so you have to figure the money went somewhere. Also, he confirmed he is her 3rd husband and he is an L also. He said apparently OW is a lot like my H: self-absorbed, selfish type which I had heard from others. He also said he apparently had been a successful attorney so the past year or 2 he had gone into solo practice not making much money. I'm guessing that helped make my H who's prob. making twice his salary much more attractive. He's been married to her for 8 years and she had 2 marriages before that!!! She's about 43 or 44 also. I think her H is just wanting copies of the depo and hearing where he admits to the affair as apparently I guess she wouldn't admit to it in her court stuff. And I'm fine with that. He may be able to help me out more than I can help him. My L is saying he may be a witness for me, and an L so he would probably make a good one. Karen

[kat727]

I would say help each other with as much as you can as long as you feel comfortable with it. I can't imagine how 2 selfish and self-absorbed people will be able to stand each other for long once their "problems" ie. respective families are out of the way.

I know my ex was talking to the boys anyway about how he will most likely be moving in with skank. What an example he is setting. Discussing living in sin with the person that helped break up their family, give me a break!!

kat

[karen43]

I know my ex was talking to the boys anyway about how he will most likely be moving in with skank. What an example he is setting. Discussing living in sin with the person that helped break up their family, give me a break!!

kat

So what did your boys say? Are they upset? H told in the depo he's living with skank every other week, the weeks that she doesn't have the kids. And I think they will try to be a big happy family when they're D. Yuck!

So yesterday was a fun day, the afterschool program I do and then made dinner, and one of our neighbors who also goes to my church, divorced and in his 50s insisted we come over to his house so D9 could sell him cookies. We went for like half an hour and so accidentally got back home later than I wanted but H it looked like had just gotten there so that was good. Then D9 took the cookie form and he bought 10 boxes, D9 was so shocked at that! It looks like he did buy cookies for the OW under his name, so that was at least polite of him. The neighbor I had just written down his 1st name, Bob or whatever and no address b/c I know where he lives. So D9 tells me today Dad wanted to know who Bob was? and she told him about selling cookies to him and that's why we were late. Funny that he is curious or caring about that, when he's had a girlfriend for over a year!!! But I thought that was funny! Karen

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Good!! Let him wonder!!!!

Puppy

[Yoyowife]

So yesterday was a fun day, the afterschool program I do and then made dinner, and one of our neighbors who also goes to my church, divorced and in his 50s insisted we come over to his house so D9 could sell him cookies. We went for like half an hour and so accidentally got back home later than I wanted but H it looked like had just gotten there so that was good. Then D9 took the cookie form and he bought 10 boxes, D9 was so shocked at that! It looks like he did buy cookies for the OW under his name, so that was at least polite of him. The neighbor I had just written down his 1st name, Bob or whatever and no address b/c I know where he lives. So D9 tells me today Dad wanted to know who Bob was? and she told him about selling cookies to him and that's why we were late. Funny that he is curious or caring about that, when he's had a girlfriend for over a year!!! But I thought that was funny! Karen

This is great, I love it! Give H a taste of his own medicine!

So is anyone else thinking what I'm thinking? I don't think the gentleman was only interested in cookies!!!

[kat727]

I saw that too. I bet that is why her H bought more than expected!

Karen as for the boys discussion with their Dad, they are both thinking he is a man sl*t. Relationship between him and the kids is on a downhill slope. S16 asked me if he could use a small notebook to basically journal to his Dad. He asked if he could curse. I said in the book sure, but probably not such a good idea in a real one on one conversation.

kat