personally think that looking, even flirting, is kind of an ego boost when your self-esteem is shot. I think it helps with detachment if you realize that there are other fish in the sea, even if you would prefer your wife.
Very good point. I agree with that too. I think it helps with detachment. Sometimes there really is nothing wrong with us that having a new relationship doesn't solve. I know we all want to say that we need to be fine without a woman, but we can also be just fine with a woman. We never seem to mention that.
I mean.. I can get along just fine without my remote. However,if my remote wasn't working and I couldn't fix it, then I would go find another one. I wouldn't sit around for months and months pining after my old one. I may be upset, but I wouldn't say to myself.. Gee.. Maybe I need to be alone without my remote for awhile so that I can show myself that I am just fine without one...
I am not trying to downplay how hard it is to uncouple. I am only wondering why we keep trying so darned hard to win back a woman who is doing everything she can to tell us she doesn't want us, and yet we still don't get the message and cling to hope. And yet, my reality keeps showing me they don't come back until you seemed to have moved on and she is in doubt about YOUR feelings for her. What's up with that?
