DQ--you're correct, there are degrees of evil and danger. And I am glad it's no worse. But it's still pretty damn bad, really.
Predator--yes. Keep in mind that back in May, when this all began, I emailed her and asked her not to pursue this relationship with H so that we could work on healing our marriage. And she absolutely declined, claimed that she was supportive of D and I, but that she and H had a deep bond and to step back would be untrue to who she wants to be--a healing presence. What a nutcase. Yeah, I'll trump that "deep bond" and raise her a marriage and a sacramental commitment. But, as it turns out, I still lose.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012