are you doing a masters? I am. working on thesis now. I also lost it when the rug was pulled out from under me. The incompletes stacked up but I kept taking the classes and finally made up all the incompletes. I'm way behind on thesis - should have started on it last summer, but it is what it is.
I don't know your how things worked with you and H, but I was resentful of some of XW's behavior re: grad degree. I hated the way she failed to include me or make me feel welcome at social gatherings of her peers. I felt unimportant when she expected me to match her schedule but would never match mine. I guess I shouldn't have been surprised that she slept with one of her field researchers and then refused to take even the slightest amount of time away from her work to do something together, even though that was her main complaint - that we weren't doing enough things together. One thing she kept acknowledging was that if we were to work on M it would mean her ending contact with OM/researcher. That would've affected her research project. Plus, she kept saying that her feelings for him aside, she was excited about future research collaborations with him.
Much of that was XW and how she chose to balance work and personal life. But I also wonder how much holds true for others in grad programs. At the research university I'm at, they call Law, Medical, and MBA degrees the "Divorce Degrees". And a study came out last spring saying women with one of those degrees was more likely to divorce than their male counterparts. Here's the WSJ article.
