Anyone who would knowingly and repeatedly break up a family (an OM/OW) is, in my mind, a predator, and should be treated as such. It may or may not be enforceable (my atty told me that 6 months TSO was VERY customary, and not a problem for us in our sitch), but I would damned sure play the card if for no other reason than to send the message that this is NOT acceptable. This poor child needs time to grieve the end of her parents' marriage, and really, the end of her family as she's known it thus far in her life. Any father (and OW) who can't see that and respect that, really aren't in the best position to be making decisions for the child's welfare.
I'm really sorry about your step-daughter, DQ. That's just simply horrible.
