Actually, last night ended on an up note. H called S17 and they talked some more. I over heard some of it, and was very proud of S17. At one point he told H that parenthood doesn't end at 18, it should be forever "like in the move Parenthood". S said that H's response was that life wasn't a movie......but then S17 said something strange. He said "Mom, Dad doesn't necessarily want you to move on." So, I asked what do you mean. He said he didn't want to break H's confidence, but he said that "Dad still cares for you very much and he wants to have you in his life, but he just can't see himself married to you anymore because he likes to drink and go out with the guys and you don't like that." S17 then said "He doesn't want you to just drop him and never talk to him again."
That's called CAKE EATING
it don't work that way... I think it's time to go dark on your H. Stop making his life so darn easy peasy girl. I am glad that he is trying in his MLC state to attempt this relationship with your son but he really needs to stop telling him about his "setups".
He should never discuss his "relationships" with his son. Your H must be very lonely to have to confide in a 17 yr old this stuff. I think maybe you should have a calm discussion with him and just ask him to not tell his son about his private life. That it naturally puts your son in the middle. Your son should not be your H "confidante".
I hope you have fun this weekend. Are you taking your little doggie with you or do you need a sitter?
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
