I have to ask this. Have you looked over at Cookie's latest thread in newcomers? She mentioned that she felt like her every move was being recorded and watched. She feels like she is under surveillance right now.
I know you believe in having intel and I agree with you. How long do you plan to keep the intel up? How long does your wife have to go before you decide enough is enough?
While you may be able to fairly judge how long your wife has to prove herself, there are other men (not saying VancouverDad at all...just putting this out there for everyone. Actually, Breakaway's H comes to mind as an example) who would never be willing to let this dog lie.
Meanwhile, look at Cookie. Look at what it is doing to her.
Thoughts?
Mel
I should have clarified. We are no longer in formal transparency, although she is very good about letting me know her schedule, any OM sightings (he still comes into her gym, altho they never speak anymore and he even has a new GF), and all of her hours are accounted for. She has more than regained my trust.
As for any other posters' views on no-contact, transparency, exposure, etc., I no longer have the time nor the energy to debate them. There are two distinct views on this, and reasonable people can disagree. And mine are probably in a 40/60 or even 35/65 minority, although they are well represented by best-selling authors like Harley, Glass, and others.
