Hey Whitney - thanks for reminding me about that book - I had been reading to check it out myself to see what it's about. Other people had recommended it on here as well - though I've not read it yet.
One thing I want to say, though, is that you should be the man you want to be - when being that man coincides with the type of man your partner wants - then it seems like things can be a lot healthier.
How are you doing otherwise- just in terms of you - not your W...