My experience has been that until you are ready to accept something, you won't. You may know it in your head, you may hear everyone telling you the same thing, but that doesn't mean that you are ready to wrap your head around it.kat
I spent the first 6 weeks in TOTAL denial -- just could not believe it. Happily, I am out of that mode (not completely, occasionally I revisit -- but have stopped the "what if'ing")
Got to do some mourning along the way -- that is where I currently think I am. Once or twice during the past two weeks, I've experienced anger. Can't print what I thought and said, but I'll guess everyone here has thought and said the same thing. Acceptance is slowly but surely coming -- if I was there, I would not be here.
I went "dark" on HER -- no contact, and I stopped sitting on the couch waiting for the call that will never come in to come in. My life is one-deminsional right now, but that's fine. I know this phase will not last forever.
Still hacks me off at how SHE could jettison a M like it was garbage. But that's for me to deal with.
BS (me) 57 WW (her) 51 M - 27+ years Sons - 34/21 daugh - 32/26 D-day - (A#1 Apr 98) (A#2 Oct 08) Status - minimal contact (me) living with OM (her) Divorce - Scheduled for Apr 09