Think back to when you guys were a strong couple. When you had sex, was there a lot of heavy R talk with it, or was it really light and fun and sex out of mutual attraction and physical magnetism?

If you were dating would you go down the road of all the heavy emotional stuff, or would you have sex and just enjoy it for what it is?

My W had sex with me a few times in the early stages of seeing me start changing. She emphasized that she did not want to confuse me also and that it was just sex, but you know what, I think it was still another test to see if she could break my resolve and cause me to start pursuing again. If your W is a fairly emotional person like mine, then sex is never "just sex".

I say go with it, and show her that it just makes you happier and more fun to be around (aka wall veeery strong). ;\)

Spellfire aka Mike

"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A