I will try to do that when I have some time. Right now I'm slammed. I will tell you however that for awhile during my wife's affair it was ME who moved out of our bed and onto the couch, and the night I took it back was a real moral victory for me (she went to sleep upstairs on the floor in a sleeping bag in our daughter's old bedroom). EVERYONE told me to get back in that bed, and they were right!!!
We're doing OK now -- still some loooong-term SSM issues, but there's been no repeat infidelity, she ended her A after only 3 months, and we're best friends again. We're going to go to a Retrouvaille weekend next month to try to help with the intimacy issues.
