Can Two Alphas Live Together?

[holdingon]

The boys talked about how they have seen H and I spending time together & knew we were going to counseling, but they also felt hurt and neglected because we've been very focused on each other and they felt that we needed to begin healing and rebuilding as a family.

This really got me crying. I wonder if this will ever happen for us... our family is so broken. I feel like I have the boys and I wrapped together by a thread... very fragile.

T2,
What do you mean not coddling H while they are with OW? I don't feel I can issue an ultimatum... I feel like he will go with her, and I DO feel it will fall apart eventually. He is out of the house, and I don't call him, etc. I certainly don't make things good for him, but I am kind and loving to him and always look good when I see him. But he knows I am here and I assume he thinks I am waiting on him, but he continues to have his A, which repulses me.