Episode IV: A New Hope (?)

[dday101798]

Well, interesting day yesterday.

Something told me check into some of new insurance accounts and low and behold, W already "hacked" into them by creating user names and passwords using my personal info on her brother's pc and using her father's e-mail address, she's not the brightest bulb in the box when it comes to computer stuff.

So after a long afternoon having the accounts deleted and starting to trace the PC's IP address history, she's dug an even bigger hole for herself now. S10 had made mention of her being on the computer and using papers from teh firebox she stole to do something on-line last week which spurred me to check into things.

My sons and I had a interesting conversation over dinner last night. They asked about how quickly they could see W after the hearing next week. I again informed them, she was supposed to be able to see them now, but she declined to do so, so it has been her choice not to. Then S10 and I spoke mre into it, and again, without getting into the details rminded him that what she has and is doing to me is not right, he agreed.

All the sudden, the kid who was supposed to be so "attached to OM" comes out of his shell and says he never liked being around them when over by her, that all they did was drink, smoke and fight. Then I said again that all I wanted was for mom to come home, to which he said yeah, I know, but mom doesnt' want to come so she's wrong. I left it at that and said, well, now you know I have to do what I have to do and you and your brother are doing so much better right now in school with out this bouncing around stuff from house to house and it shows that you needed structure in this situation. He got really excited when I spoke of the prospect of moving out, even if it's an apartment.

So, she's sunk her own ship, the kids know on their own right from wrong wthout me having to say anything about it. Sure they miss their mom, but they also know that mom's the one who doesn't want a family anymore and it's time to move on.

Like I said in LD's thread, I fully expect OM to be at her side next Thursday for her hearing on the domestic violence. I will be prepared and kill 2 birds with 1 stone and file for no-fault when the smoke clears.

It's obvious this one's not coming back and now my own kids tell me I'm better off to let her go and I agree.