Sadly, that woman will be in your d12's life, you can't stop that and for you and your d'sake you have to accept it.
True, but she doesn't have to accept contact between OW and her daughter yet. Their pending legal action says "not until the end of the school year," and he's already in violation of that. Any good child psychologist will tell you that it is NOT appropriate right now, nor should it be acceptable IN ANY WAY. This girl needs time to adapt to her new family status, and it's emotional abuse that her father is exposing her to the Wicca Wench right now.
My advice is a strong legal move. Have your atty file an immediate TSO against Wicca Wench coming within "X" yards of your daughter, and get it on file with the family court of jurisdiction that your husband not only condoned this, but set this up.
A shot has been fired across the bow of the Good Ship Hoozh. It's time for a strong response, in my opinion.
