I think my dream was a nightmare that was inspired by the "Not Just Friends" book I have been reading that touched off some deep stuff. Hard to explain, but the dreams I have that tell me "important information" are never that direct or ...well cliche. They feel different.
H called his father yesterday morning and had to explain why they had been called the previous night with such an odd question. I'm sure that was embarrasing to H. He got quite a lecture from his dad about how it is only natural that such things will come up (suspicions and questions) after such a betrayal.
Up until now, H has seen my requests for reassurance and accountability as MY problem and it has gone into that dynamic of him getting defensive and accuse me of being controlling.
I think he's getting a different perspective on things now. HIs dad told him that he should welcome such times to be accountable when we have suspicions or questions and face them head on, as that is needed to regain trust. Guess old dysfunctional dad has learned a thing or two over the years.
