Sounds like you're on that right path again and your trip away should definately help keep you mind at ease about it.
I had a lot of those texts. So I know where you're at with those.
Just keep an open yet cautious mind to further actions and don't get pulled in to quickly. It's very easy to jump and say or do too much when you finally start the hear the things you've longed for.
Somewhere in the back of my mind I hope that my W has gotten a real slap in the face of reality with the current situation involving the kids after her 'outburst', and that it woke her up. I highly doubt and fully expect OM to be at her side for the hearing next week, so after the hearing is all said and done, I'm stopping in the clerk's office next door and finally doing the unwanted but innevitable task, filing for a no-fault.
Your W seems to show some signs of not being so far out as mine, so there is always hope. Hang in there.
dday
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11