Wife left tonight

[ppenton]

Wow, I'm so surprised I got responses already! Thanks. We met in 1986 and married in 1992 and have teenage 2 sons. I'm about 80 or so pages into the book and am still learning about this whole ordeal. When she first told me I did beg her to stay which she did for a month but she was still seeing OM. I have stopped texting and calling her at all hours of the day and night as I thought that would drive her crazy and further away. She met OM in October, which is not unusual for her to meet and make friends with male/females as she is very out going and makes friends easily. I was not concerned about this person until I noticed many text messages between them and I confronted W on Dec 1 and she apologized and said she would stop contact with him. She then started therapy on her own on Dec 2, and we talked and she told me everything was fine and she didn't want to leave me. So, I believed her and since I didn't see any calls/texts between them I thought it was over and everything was ok. However, when she told me on Dec 27 that she started sleeping with him I was shocked and she revealed she had a disposable phone and that's how they were communicating. One of her issues is she is depressed and I helped her get to a psychiatrist and adjust her medication. I wrongly thought that would help us, instead it helped her and OM. Its going to be hard to avoid her as she still wants to be involved with the kids, in taking them to school and bringing them home, so I see her in the morning when I'm getting ready for work. Speaking of work have not been able to concentrate much as all I think about is her and how to get her back.