She doesn't know why she is feeling this way. She is in denial about the issue being inside of her. She is dealing with some very powerful emotions and she doesn't know why or how to handle them. It's common and much easier for her to place the blame on something external. It's almost always the spouse.
DO NOT waste your time trying to figure out what stage she is in. The themes may be common in MLC but each person and their MLC is different.
As soon as they hit stage 3 they will bounce all over the place. Like this: Stage 1 2 3 23334223344422234333343. Follow me? It's pointless to try and follow my friend.
