So, I was specifically invited to my ex in-laws 50th anniversary this past weekend and I went. (weird buying a gift and a card to celebrate faithfulness and fidelity for the parents of an adulterous ex-wife, don't cha think?)
I saw all the old "family" members and was embraced like family, heck, at one point I think my ex-wife was almost about to hug me, that was weird.
I prayed and prayed for the extracting of every ounce of bitterness out of me, to be able to attend such an event and feel neutral towards ex and Mr. ex. (I had my closest faithful friends also praying for me).
I am getting there, maybe have even arrived, re forgiveness that is.
A dear friend quoted this scripture to me and I have claimed it as my own as well. It was given to the people of Israel at the time of the writing but it applies to anyone who calls upon God.
Quote:
Psalm 147:3
He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds.
The bible talks about not allowing a "root of bitterness" to develop yet it is often very reasonable and rational to have such a "root."
Conversely, I am told, as a follower of Christ and a believer in what the bible teaches me, that I must forgive others (EVEN if the offending party never apologizes). The root of bitterness prevents forgiveness.
I had a good time. there was a moment or two of weirdness but who would have thought of being at such an event 2 years after the ink is dry on the D or 20 months after Ex's remarriage?
Elsewhere, life is soooooooooo rich. I have many single (as well as married) friends, I am hosting a big party at my house for two ladies from church with lots of dancing. I have a few lady friends from church that have show me interest but I see them as friends only. I also have a couple of ladies who are closer but the boundaries are defined by both me and them. I have a good core of really close male friends, Men of integrity I would trust with my most cherished possessions.
Though they do not live with me, I could write volumes about how good things are with my kids but I'll save that for another time.
Life is good!
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
