I see you were able to post your picture. What a beauty you are!!
In reading your SIL remarks in regard to Wolfie's childhood, I was struck by the abundance of answers that poured into the picture. Especially those behaviors that left us all scratching our heads and muttering things like "huh?"
Issues with self esteem, fear of abandonment and maybe even a fear of intimacy come to my mind for starters.
My H has issues that are clearly marked "mom". It helps me some to know this because my approach is generally more effective when I'm operating within the parameters of that knowledge. There are also times when I have to gently remind him that I am not his mom.
It looks like you are reaching some deep layers now. Very encouraging stuff.
