I'd totally leave her alone. She's confused. You have a family and a home. She will come sniffing around. Hardest thing you will ever have to do is just leave her alone. I'm sure she knows how you feel. Read the book, follow it. seriously follow it. Use this site to screen your thoughts, actions, responses. Hang tough. I thought the world would end, but it won't. Be the best dad you can to your kids. She will see that. Do activities with them, go places with them. They will make you feel better, but your wife will begin to see what she's missing because she will never have that with this joker.
