But awkward is good, it is progress. Much better than spinning into old bad habits right?
What are you both doing to 'replace' those old bad habits?? What are you doing to learn new ones individually & then practicing them collaboratively?
Originally Posted By: EnergyAZ
Not sure of what to do/say out of concern it might start something, so do nothing instead and keep focus on other things.
Sounds like how R's get to the point where there is a WA or an affair.
Originally Posted By: EnergyAZ
Keep showing her things wont sprial out and get ugly when you are together.
Not ONLY when it's awkward but when you are tackling the tough topics too.
Originally Posted By: EnergyAZ
When both people feel more confident the other is not going to slip into poor form, things start to open up a little bit.
and THAT is when it is crucial to do what you have been learning to do that is a 180 from before. Be consistant, empathetic, caring, compassionate. EVEN IF SHE IS NOT. She will continue to test you to make sure these changes are for real.
Originally Posted By: EnergyAZ
You HAVE to focus on you!
I would suggest you HAVE to focus on her... ask her questions about the 'new' her, show interest in her life, in her changes, in her interests.
My 2 cents worth. Peace Bridge
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