Since Wolfie says I have to spell things out for him, and we are supposed to be working on writing down our "bottom lines & boundaries"...
I'm going to get the book I've heard a lot of people here reference: Not Just Friends because it sounds like it's right-on-point.
Right now I'm laughing a bit at my little overachiever-self. Give me a homework project and I'll turn it into a Masters Thesis, LOLOL!
AND...to address the issue about him being vulnerable because he's rather naive about women in the first place: I'm going to let him in on some of the thinking involved in OW-land. (I'm going to have to put myself in OW mentality to do this--UGH!), but the way I see it, if I were made of that cloth, I'd be able to set my sights on a guy and, with the right techniques, I'd have a good chance at success.
I'd listen, listen, listen, ask questions and listen some more. I'd do subtle things to support and encourage any "poor me" stuff I heard from the guy. I'd subtely ask questions and listen some more...making mental note of EVERY area of every area of vulnerability I heard and then I'd very subtely start to exploit those vulnerabilities.
That's just the start, and I'm going to get very specific with Wolfie about the ways he's an open book to someone like that.
Am I giving anyone the shivers? I'm giving myself a few, but if we are going to consider this an exercise in strengthening our R against a common enemy (quoting the MC) then I believe that the first element of stratagy that any decent warrior from Crazy Horse to Patton would use is KNOW YOUR ENEMY!
Maybe I should even start a new thread so you all can give me your input on the subject, enit? What do you all think?
