Hey Guys thanks for all the encouragement! I have been busy keeping busy between work and play. Sorry I have been AWOL. The past few days have been good. I have worked some over time and took this as an opportunity to create some mystery.I didn't tell her that I was working I just said that I was out with a friend, which I was because I was working with my friend. I did the same the next night and had a brief conversation with her. She said I think you have a girlfriend, I just replied that you already know my answer to that and changed the subject.The next day my MIL me that my Wife thinks I have a girlfriend. I am sure that deep down she knows that Idont but wants me to in order to justify what she has done.
Anyway I am not going to give her the power of reassuring her that I am just waiting around for her. I don't owe her an explanation of where I am.
She now texts me and calls but I don't pick up often. Today I was at the gym and she texted me were are you?
I figure keep her guessing and show her that I have a life. Last night I left just as she got home and did't tell her where I was going and didn't give her the chance to ask. I had a cooking class that I signed up for. Before the class I was at starbucks enjoying an americano and surfing the web. My Wife friend walked in and we chatted. I guess when my wife was talking to her she mentioned that she saw me and I am guessing my wife wanted to know who I was with because my wife texted me today saying that she was talking to her friend who saw me by myself. She said I hope you don't feel that you can't be in the house if I am here.
When I talked to her in person she asked again and I just said" why would I feel that way I was enjoying a nice coffee and surfing the web in between running around."
This morning I left her one of her favorite magazines because she cleaned the upstairs and my bathroom. I want to reward positive things I left a note telling her that I appreciated it.
She left a note say thanks and that it was very sweet. I need to walk that fine line of not being too detached. But I won't reward bad behavior.
Tonight she was tired and I could tell she was in her thinking mode. Since I have been keeping busy she has been staying home more ,interesting.
My DB coach gave me a good line " there is no point in running when nobody is chasing you" things that make you go hmmmmmmm.
Anyway that was a mouthful I shall see what happens my wife told me that she has made an appointment with our Doctor to get a referral for someone to talk to. I hope she finds someone good.
that's all for now
Jeff
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
