WaitingPatiently- You are absolutely right that it is H's choice to keep cheating that is stopping reconciliation from happening. Guess I needed to see that in writing for it to sink in. I do need to set some boundaries. I guess I need to sit down and think of what boundaries I need to set and apply them.
H lies to me on a daily basis about phone calls to OW. They literally spend all day on the phone with each other. I have a way of seeing that without H knowing I can and it is not so much that I look to see IF he is talking with her (cause I know he is) but moreso to see if the lies are ever going to stop. And so far they are not. H does tell me he talks to OW but he says once or twice a day.....try 8-15.
It is intolerable for him to continue with this married skank and I am still going to let OW's H know about it. I just can't do it when I have D7. Have to wait until H takes her on his weekend before trying again.
Aud31- Thank you for posting. I am learning that it is just an excuse. The only reason I had thought it was part of it was because I know that H held a little bit of a grudge when we S 3 years ago because I made him leave.
He sometimes tells me that he knows I don't want him back and he learned that the day I filed. But the more I think about it now the more I see that it is just an excuse to try to make me think or to blame myself.
At this point I really never see us getting back together because the A seems to be heated again by all the phone calls back and forth and it is never going to stop between the 2 of them.
Who knows what will happen when OW's H find out but at least whatever happens I will then know if they are going to be together or not.
I went out today and watched a movie. It was nice and it took my mind off things at least for a bit. H called earlier and I talked to him just briefly. Long enough to tell him I was going out but did not tell him where or with who:)
