Pam, don't ever worry about being a bummer on my thread! I can't tell you enough how in awe I am with your strength and ability to keep up the PMA (most of the time).
You've had, in some ways, a harder time than I have. With us, as soon as OW was known to me he ended it. You have far more of a chess game going on, but you are going a great job of stratagy! Anyway...I really feel for you, even though your H would probably call that "CO". Argh, that ticked me off a bit--the overuse of the "co" thing he did to you. What I saw in it was that you have a kind and generous spirit! Who can't use a little kindness from time-to-time?
Anyway..always here for you..keep your chin & PMA up no matter what the alien man does!