I think the less said about the rings and her calling the OM's W, the better. If you wait until you get past this, as you suggested and then bring it all up again and how it hurt you for her to call OM's W, you will be opeing a can of worms.

I know I had to learn just how badly I hurt my H by reading the threads of men whose w's had left them or had an A. So, I say this being as fair as I know how to be......the way things are right now, I think you have got to find a way to get over the pain and forgive her and stop obsessing or you will drive her away for certain, no longer have a M, and you will be left with all this unresolved in your heart and be one huge miserable mess. Please stop talking to her about the stitch and just try to be friend-ly towards her and make the most of each day. Work very hard on yourself and the things that you feel had a hand in helping her turn to another man to fulfill those needs (but that may come later on after some of this other stuff has been sraightened out).

Sandi2

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!