I agree that it is major progress, and could even call it a real breakthrough.
One thing that the MC mentioned was that, until about 2 months ago, she was seeing a dynamic that kept us very stuck. Wolfie's belief that if I asked for any changes or "complained" about anything, that meant I didn't love him and shouldn't be in the R in the first place. At some point, he "got it" that it is normal to love someone very much and still there may be parts of their behavior that really tick you off. She had pointed out to him several times that if I complained about something or some behavior that was truly destructive to our R, that my asking for a change was a very LOVING thing to do.
Until he could get to that point, there was nothing I could really bring up and nothing could ever get resolved. Strange to think about how we were stuck at that place for years.
Anyway, the MC said that for the past 2 months she has seen trust rebuilding between us and that made the rest of the work easier to do.
I think we will be ok, but there's still a lot of work to do and lots of old patterns to break. It sure was a horrible a traumatic year, but I am starting to see prayers I've had for a long time being answered.
Got to sign off. I'm so tired I even skipped out on a pow-wow tonight.
