she hasn't put any of her rings back on and I'm one who believes if your married you wear your ring.
You believe a lot of stuff. If you believe that then wear YOUR ring. Whether she wears hers or not isn't your concern. She doesn't need to wear it because YOU believe she needs to. It's a choice. Obviously you'd like to see her wearing them, but she's a separate person from you and your beliefs.
Obviously she now feels again like she doesn't have choices. That shows that SHE is still hurt because you called her a whore. Oh, but you didn't mean it. It wasn't like you were thinking it or anything. I think you need to fess up to yourself that you damn well did mean it. I know you're really really hurt about the OM, and I don't blame you, but you need to be a lot more honest with yourself.
Right now I'd interpret her calling OM's W as a show of independence. You squash that, and you squash your chances. You are NOT in control of her, nor should you be. You only control YOU. Worry about YOU. Change YOU.
