I am finding this just about the most distressing thing so far. Probably because she's messing with my daughter. I just don't know what to do about this, I feel powerless, and I know it's going to keep happening. I don't want this woman in my daughter's life. I don't want her to have to reconcile her father falling out of love with her mother, taking off with someone else and changing her whole life, and feeling like she has to be friendly to that other person so that her dad doesn't stop loving HER. And he's just so freaking clueless and narcissistic that there's no appealing to reason.
Definitely re-examining my custody preferences. I was willing to be generous and flexible so that she could spend time with her father, but since it's clear that she's going to continue to take a back seat and do some emotional gymnastics, I'm thinking that limiting her exposure as much as possible is the best plan.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
