Hi Tal, This is a tough one and I can sort of relate--my H does not have many guy friends, so many of his friends are women--through the triathlon team or the gym and I was never really threatened until one time he had been going jogging with a girl he met at the gym--nothing ever happened with her, but I did question it regularly and although H does not admit, I was able to find out that he wanted to pursue something with her, but she had morals!!! She knew he was married and she knew he was married to me (unlike present OW)... Given all you and Wolfie have gone through, I think you just need to state it like it is--and with MC present it should be easier to ge through. It is not unreasonable of you to ask certain things of him to restore the trust and faith in the R. Maybe put the shoe on the other foot and ask how he'd feel if you were having secret friendships with other men--platonic friendships, but secretive?--he probably would agree that he would not like it either!
