Being the recovering addict Al-Anon's not for me :).
You know, the al-anon group I went to actually had a recovering alcoholic; he discovered after being sober that he was trying to control people by "helping" them and he kept attracting the same type of people over and over. So, while I do see it almost like having the wolf in the hen's house, I also think that it might do all LBS some good to attend al-anon or CoDA meetings. (Like I said earlier, just to learn a healthy level of detachment and how to focus on oneself.)
I have been mulling this over and the more I think about it, the more I am seeing all over the BB people actively *pursuing* "don't talk, don't trust, don't feel." The good thing is that we have this board to come and vent and actually talk and 'feel'. But I think it is VERY easy to slip into dynamics that are no good for us LBSs. The constant monitoring of how things are going; swallowing our feelings and 'acting as if'.....Just like growing up in a household that wasn't "safe" for us, it is a fine way to cope with the current sitch and not blow things out of the water prematurely. ... Sorry, I'm hijacking your thread with my ramblings.
Anyway, I am SO glad that you were able to get the help you needed to overcome your addiction. I assume you have been working the steps and have attempted to make amends with your wife?
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
