Hey all,
I've been off line for a few days. It was so nice to come back and see all the great feedback and support.

Kaw, I think you're right, he coulda said "it's only temporary", but truth be told, I think he meant to keep it and only came up with the "temporary" thing once he realized he'd stepped in a big pile of horse sh!+

He's getting all the vacation time he'd ask for, so we just spent the last 4 days together, which is the longest in I can't remember when. He interacted more with the boys and their girlfriends than he normally does, and jumped in to do some housework several times (who was that man holding the broom--or was I hallucinating?). Anyway, he interacted more like he was part of the family again.

This morning, I asked what his plans are as he has a few more days off. He said he's going back to his place to clean and do more sorting and packing. I don't know how long he can possibly draw that process out.....we'll yes, I do know--maybe 5 years or so....

I'm feeling like Trying24now describes...that horrid feeling of living in limbo. Feeling periods of time when things feel like a M and like a family again...but then the leaving...seeing him walk out the door with his bags...

I keep telling myself that it's only for a little while longer.

Anyway, I agree that for a "borderline...whatever", he is trying to the best of his ability.

P.S. Yeah, Pam, I'll email you.