Tal, Congrats on getting this out in the open- as painful as it is, it is also healthy and he is not so much the bad guy and you are no so much the obsessing spouse. I do this all the time- in fact I caught my H ogling some woman as we walked. Then he pealed out in his car and raced home. I had myself convinced that I was boring ugly and she was hot and I couldnt live with a R like that with him looking. Forced myself to calm down, used "I" phrases and told him when he looked at other women, it made me feel unappreciated. He told me there were hookers there he thought and was shocked, he was looking at, not that woman, and he pealed out to race me home because I beat him last time- was trying to be funny. So, I think we both are trying to break the cycle with good results. Also, in regards to your H and his independence- I read a book call the highly sensitive person and it describes me and maybe him too. We need lots of down time or we are overwhelmed. We still need people but cannot handle constant stumilus. This is my very simple description so maybe there is a ton more about it in the book. Just an idea that helped me understand my shortness with people and crazy feelings at times! Just droppin in to see what happened - LOL Shay
