alien invasion II

[hoosiermama]

Re-posting my last post from the thread that finally locked.

So, over the weekend, H had D overnight on Friday, which was unusual. He has not yet wanted her on a weekend. As it turns out, H and D had dinner at OW's daughter's house.

D was not supposed to have to deal with OW until the end of the school year. H never mentioned it to me, never advised me about it later. I wouldn't have known except that D told me about it.

I am absolutely livid. D should not have to deal with OW at all, let alone be stuck at dinner with her. She shouldn't have to make friends with this woman she knows broke her family apart. She shouldn't have to be influenced by someone with clearly different values than what I've tried to raise her with. And there's not a thing I can do about it. We tried to insert it in the temporary agreement, but it's not binding and I imagine his L advised him about that; in fact, it's illegal even to mention the pagan princess by name! Heaven forbid she'd lose any of her rights!

I don't know how D feels about it--she is clammed up. She wanted me to know, clearly, but then wouldn't talk about it. So I imagine this will now be a regular thing, she'll now be a part of D's life. So since we're still setting up mediation, I intend to clamp down on the flexibility and frequency of visitation. This is absurd.

I talked with H about this, and it was predictably a waste of breath. If I am to be consulted about this kind of thing, then he should be consulted and have some control over D not making it to church every week. According to H, if I don't take her he will take her to his church. I asked, incredulous, if he truly did not see the inconsistency here. He blew up, of course. (what on earth is D going to think about church if she's taken to church weekly by her father, who forces her to spend time with his mistress--who is a wiccan?) I asked if this was now going to be regular thing--D spending time with OW. He actually told me that was none of my business.

So this has reached yet another, new level of insanity. And I still have no control over it. I'm beginning to understand why people abduct their own children and disappear (no, I'm not planning on that!)