What IS with everyone worrying about bumming others out? IF our posts DO have such an effect, it's likely touching a deep chord in that person's own heart that perhaps needed a poke!
If we feel extra vulnerable, we should do as LL does and just read our own threads, bask in the attention and focus on our own stuff for a while.
Tal, the PO box thing is whacked! If CJ wanted such a thing, or had any "secret" place, credit cards etc, it would be very hard for me to trust.
Tal, the stuff your H's counsellor keeps coming back to me. There ARE people with borderline versions of personality disorders who really ARE wired to be loners!
I'm not saying Wolfie's one, but it sure would explain some of his ambivalence...he WANTS love and closeness...but feels confined by it at the same time.
This truly WOULD make it HIS problem, and thus his responsibility to make a choice and stick with it. The pathway of growth and joy, IMHO is the path forward with you...the pathway of withdrawal, comfort, solitude and later despair, lays in the other direction.
YOU have the responsibility to look after YOUR best interests...what YOUR soul needs.
