Your STBXW sure is a strange inside/out upside/down lady.
You said it, Being Me! When we first met my W was an Evangelical Christian, she went to church weekly and belonged to a small group etc. I did not subscribe to her faith but respected her right to hold such beliefs. I would attend her church a couple of times a month and would go out on outings with her and her church group. I respected her faith yet disagreed with it. I respected her belief that sex was only to be had inside of a marriage, that was important to her and therefore important to me! I never pushed for anything before we were married. After a couple of years or so W dropped her church as she felt any questions she posed about faith were countered with "we'll pray for you", not any real answers. Somehow in re-writing our marriage history she has pegged me with being the cause of her losing her faith. I don't get it, maybe my arguments against faith made more sense to her at the time then "we'll pray for you"...I don't know. I know my parents have said that she was a lot happier when she was going to church and had her beliefs. So she may have asked for prayer, as you said, due to my parents being there and/or because she knows I have a Christian faith now...I don't know that either. What my faith has given me is the recognition that there is more to life than just me and I think that is something she sorely needs. She is so caught up in "me" that she has trouble seeing beyond it. She has become an angry, selfish person who sees only how the world is acting upon her. She sees herself as helpless and therefore needs that OP to rescue her. Her faith is misplaced. But, that's for her to figure out, I can only hope and pray that she find some sort of peace and begins to see the person she is capable of becoming. If God has made us in His image, what higher worth can we possibly have? Thanks for checking in, Being Me.
