In a way, I almost wish I had gotten a laundry list of complaints about things he wanted me to work on.
The only thing he's ever told me is 1. that I can be a bit "controlling" on certain subjects (but admits that he can too). 2. that sometimes I nag him (like about making Dr's. appointments (but admits he does that to me too). 3. that he wants me to make an effort to consult with him (making joint decisions). 4. that he wishes he understood why I react the way I do about things sometimes.
He's told me repeatedly that his depression, need for "solitude", the A, this separation have very little to do with me.
I want to think that if I change this way or that way...do this or that...that I can effect the outcome and not feel so powerless.
He keeps telling me that all this has been about there being something wrong with HIM that HE needs to fix if he can.
Maybe I need to start taking that more seriously--like I said before, maybe I'm like one of those women that falls in love with a gay guy...no matter how much love is involved--it just doesn't work.
