regarding the "time limit" of h moving home... do you see signs that he is slowly moving home? bringing and leaving more of his "stuff" there...staying extra nights...etc?
I honestly don't know when it was that my h moved home..I know that he didn't totally clear out his apartment until his dad moved into it I think back in may...it was frustrating having him just come here when he chose too..watching him bring his laundry basket..me thinking..ok is he moving home now..only to have him do his laundry and then take it with him...the most frustrating was when we'd go out and he'd wear something that had been left here and to see him take it back to the apartment with his laundry as if he wasn't comming home but slowly moving everything out..arrrgg!
it's good to have an idea in mind as to when your door will no longer be wide open...I know that my fuse was short and honestly I don't know how I lasted as long as I did he started comming around late sept early oct and the apt wasn't cleared out til may and I tend to think the only reason it got cleared out was because his dad wanted or needed it..because it had been sitting for a while and h gave me the "I've been planning on getting rid of it for a while, this is not some means to keep it"
you can only wait as long as you can wait and if you've already disgussed a time frame with h and that has passed perhaps it is time to re address it...but in a way that is not finger pointing at him...keep in mind though the two of you made the "agreement" right now it is your home and he may need you to ask...and ask is all you can do.
