I would reccomend you find yourself a counselor or a spiritual advisor. While this board may be very helpful, I think you need someone you can really talk to.

I would try not to worry about your wife or relationship issues so much as the relationship you have with yourself.


1st things 1st - you have been on a LONG tough ride and need to heal your own wounds before you will have any true clairity on what you want out of life...let alone how to get it.


Me: 37
Wife: 40
Son: 7yo
Son: 18 mo
Bomb: 12/31/07
Status: Reconciled 1/2009 but backsliding terribly right now