I never meant to say what I said. I said it out of anger and I'm sorry for it.
If you haven't already told her this, do so, then let it go.
Concentrate on showing her that you are sorry. Right now, when emotion is high the words might not be the best measure of true feeling.
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I've never experienced her this upset. I do believe she's ashamed of what went on and me not letting go isn't helping her or me.
Bingo! You figured it out. It isn't easy, but most of the injured S's struggle with this. Find another way to deal with the emotion and thought. There are some excellent suggestions in the book that I mentioned yesterday.
Don't give up, and try to relax. This will not happen on your time frame.
You will make mistakes. Keep going, one step at a time. You have already figured out how much you love your W. Now work on the forgiveness.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
