I would say you hit the nail on the head with "Don't Talk, Don't Trust, Don't Feel". Being the recovering addict Al-Anon's not for me :). I can't tell you how much IC and rehab helped with my realizing why I abused the drugs. Funny thing is the ONLY reason I went to rehab was to prove to my wife I didn't have a problem but in all honesty it saved my life, literally.

Me:40
W: 39
T: 17 years
M: 15 years
S-9
D-6
D final 11/10/2009

"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."