No, I absolutely did not cheat back--I said some very hurtful things to her in the heat of arguments, but I have not nor would I ever consider cheating. I'm really seeking God's blessing in this and I know he won't bless me if I dishonor him. Plus, I still really do love my wife. Anyhow, what I meant was to avoid getting into very heated fights where you might say something you will later reqret. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and good plan, so I hope that you can stick with and I hope you get the results you want. It will be a long road, though, especially since she is still communicating with the OM.
