Another One Bites the Dust (3)

[Ready2Change]

Ok friends....need a bit of reassurance here.

Hi sweetie! Breath deep 4 times, and enjoy every moment of it! Everything will be OK. I feel for you. These times are not fun. I feel I may 2x4 a little too much below, but I just want what is best for you....

I have never been D and this is my first time through the process.

How many times has your L been through a D? Let them handle the parts you can't.... I watched my L very carefully during the process. I learned a lot. What you resist, persist....(IE listen to your lawyer but do not be a door mat)....

I know it is all not so fun and games and so I am trying to keep my reactions in tacked.

..Keeping my emotions stuffed down and being completely logical while interacting with W and L and other professional involved in the D was a very good DECISION I made. I allowed my emotions to come out in other constructive ways. They are still coming out now.....But I did not allow them to interfere with what was important....

I got a letter today from OEO's L (and NO Gypsy, that is complete sarcasm on my part....he is far from enlightened and very lost).

I hope you don't mind a 2x4 butttt...Past out what you want to receive. This is a natural law. Is OEO RESPECTFUL?? Do you want others to respect you? I found that taking the higher road was a VERY GOOD DECISION....I know H has hurt you. You have every right to be angry. Just because you feel H has hurt you DOES NOT MEAN you should hurt him back...I FORGIVE Ms. R2C (She is no longer my legal W) frequently. DROPPING the anger rope was very healthy for me.

The letter said that I need to allow OEO to kick me out of MY home so that he can continue his once a month weekend visitation here at the house like I originally promised and if I didn't I was a terrible mother.

REALLY??? WOW (are you paraphrasing or are these the EXACT words used)....

<Clenching Fist> When I first read this I became so enraged

*HUGS* *HUGS* it is OK to be enraged... Feel thoses feelings

He left ME.

*HUGS* It is unfair. He is choosing a selfish path right now.....

He decided he rather live with maggot. Well, live with maggot and leave me out of it.

SORRY....

After a few deep breathes

Beautiful!!! Keep those going....THEY FEEL GREAT!!!!

I forwarded the letter to my L and decided to just let them handle it.{quote]PERFECT!!! That is what they get paid for. I decided I was not fighting with W during D. Any point of contention was given to L to argue.....

[quote] I am terrified that he took the house payment to pay for the L retainer, but there is nothing I can do about that...

That would be scarry...I always confirmed W was paying the bills....That was another GOOD CHOICE I made. Other people ASSUMED things were getting paid and got screwed....It is your choice to confirm things are happening. You can choose to call the bank and confirm the payment was made. I didn't want my credit messed up......

I will just have to handle it if that what is what happens. ARGGG!!!!

I have learned that the soon I address an issue, the less energy I have to put into it to fix it.....

Focusing on all the pretty snowflakes now..............

Tell us more about the pretty snowflakes!!! Tell us more about all the great things in your life that are not in turmoil....


*Sending you Big Long HUGS and prayers and lots of smiles!!!*